Thursday, September 17, 2009

We MISS you Dad....

So we stayed at the hospital till about 2a.m. by this time everyone had slowly left & just Mom, her sister Ma'ata & Moala Si'i were left. We said our goodbye's and kissed Dad & made our way home. The ride home was quiet...we were tired, but at the same time still in shock..not really grasping what was in store for us.

The morning of the 7th (Labor Day) we got up got ready & made our way back to Dad, and again the Care Center was filled with his brother's, nephews, nieces, grand-kids, kids we were every where. Getting there I was confronted with the head nurse & the status of Dad, and the schedule we were on. The time to remove the ventilator was now moved to 12pm due to the morfin, and other medication not yet putting him in a comfortable state. Boy...was that the quickest 2-3hours before we knew it..it was now 15mins to 12pm. Again the nurses checked Dad to see how he was taking the medication....then it was time to see if Mom was ready to take off the machine, and who she'd like to be in the room when this was done...now really how were we going to "pick" who was going to be in the room....sorry EVERYBODY will be there. At this point the nurses had advised us once the machine was off it could be 5-15minutes, a few hours, days of how long Dad could last, we really didn't know. We all understood but boy Dad was a "warrior" once that machine was off he stayed with us for about 5hrs. at about 5:20pm was when he took his last breath & that was it....it's hard to comprehend that Dad's gone, that I no longer have a living "father in law" that my kids will not be able to meet him here in this life, at our little family gatherings he won't be there, at the Holidays there's going to be an empty spot, that NOW Jayy has to take charge of our little immediate family. Dad was a GREAT man, I couldn't have asked for a better father in law then him. He sure did make sure I knew how much he LOVED me, he made me feel like a PRINCESS and now...his mission has ended here. I'm so grateful that I had the time to spend with him, to hear his counsels, to be a part of his life. Dad we will always carry you in our hearts & with no DOUBT we know your watching over us...grateful to a LOVING Father in Heaven who's made the PERFECT PLAN for us to be sealed for all time & eternity. No DOUBT Paseni Lahi was a "crip" and his legacy will live on with all of us that were touched by him!! Love you Dad!!

6 comments:

ANNA BANANA said...

I am soo sorry for your loss!! I loved Paseni. he would come over my dads house everyday and walk in and ask me "where's your dad"? And I would tell him he's not here, and then he would say "ok I'll wait for him". He was so sweet, and always always so polite. My dad would always take him to the tennis courts and drop him off...oh it's so weird that he's gone. I asked my dad why he didn't go to the funeral, and he said it's too hard. So sad, my dad misses him lots :) Much love to you and your family :)

ANNA BANANA said...

P.S.
My dad told me that he had a feeling to go visit him the day b4 he passed..and he felt so guilty that he didn't act on his instinct to go up to the hospital...and then it was too late. Life comes soo fast, and it taken even faster. Crazy how things happen.

IONGI FAMILY said...

Ame and Jayy we love you guys so very much!!! how grateful we are to have the gospel in our lives to know that families are FOREVER!!! LOVE YOU ALL!!!

Morena said...

Much LOVE to you both Ame & Jayy just know that he'll be with your little ones before they come down to this earth. So very grateful for this gospel we have in our lives. Love you both so very much!!

The NyDegger's said...

Oh...thank you Morena and Lia and Ana. Yea thank goodness for the gospel. I remember Dad talking about his good friend Ifa and all that he does to help them with stuff!! Totally understand where he is coming from lots of love to all of you guys!!

Mahe Clan said...

Hey Ame!! I have been meaning to hit u up and let you and your husband know that we are soo sorry to hear of your loss. We didn't know until it was over, but please let Jay know that my husband sends his love to your famili. How blessed we are to have the gospel in our lives and know in our hearts we will see our loved ones once again. Hope you two are in the best of health. Take care Ame and talk to you soon.